Two weeks into summer break and who is tired of hearing "I'm bored" or your kids only wanting to spend their time with electronics, playing video games, or watching TV?
I know my hand is up. I totally get needing a few days to veg out and relax after the school year ends, but how can we keep it from taking over summer break? I've found a solution that has worked wonders for my family! This summer we added some structure and routine to our 9- and 10-year-olds days so they know exactly what is expected of them before they have screen time and they don't need to constantly ask me what they should do next. Here's what works for us!
1. Write Down the Big Things
At the beginning of summer, we sit down with blank calendar pages and add our planned events. These include scheduled camps, appointments, and other things we already have locked down. This will also show you the free days you have available to plan family fun days or have down days to just relax at home.
2. Write Down Our Wishlist - aka Summer Bucket List
Then we make a list of things we'd like to do -- parents included. These might include a visit to the beach, watch fireworks, go camping, make s'mores, plan a playdate with an old friend, etc. We keep this list handy and try to add as many of them as possible to our summer calendar. Make this a fun activity by creating a checklist to cross activities as you complete them, write summer activities on popsicle sticks and pulling one out as you do them or write the activities on slips of paper and put into a plastic bucket to pull out at random throughout the summer.
3. Plan Daily Schedule, Tasks, and Routines on a Summer Calendar
Next, we talk about our daily plan for the days we will be at home. Each day includes daily tasks and chores for them to complete and built-in expectations for what we call "mental engagement" and outside activity time. That means that the kids know they are expected to make time for reading and writing each day, playing outside for a minimum amount of time each day, and making something, which is a project they can choose on their own.
We put the daily schedule in writing and hang it in a prominent place. Only after they complete set tasks -- in our family, it includes reaching a minimum of 30-45 minutes of reading time -- are they allotted a set amount of screen time. Click here for a copy of our summer schedule at home for you to use or customize your own for your kids.
This is what summer days at home looked like for us:
Morning
- Make breakfast, clean up from breakfast, and wash any dishes
- Personal hygiene (get dressed, brush and floss, comb hair)
- Daily tasks and chores (Daily: feed pets, start laundry, clean rooms. Other assigned chores: take out the trash, clean bathroom, floors, etc.)
- Morning reading for at least 30-45 minutes (they earn one minute of screen time for every minute they read)
- Play outside for at least 30 minutes
- Make something (craft, craw, paint, bake/cook, build with blocks or LEGO®)
- 30-45 minutes of screen time allowed before lunch based on morning reading time
Afternoon
- Make lunch, clean up from lunch, and wash any dishes
- Afternoon reading for at least 30-45 minutes
- Make something
- Play outside for at least 30 minutes
Evening
- Dinner with family, clean up from dinner, and help with dishes
- Play outside for at least 30 minutes after dinner
- Personal hygiene (Shower, brush teeth and be ready for bed)
- Write in their journal (They both have one and as long as they are writing, I'm not really concerned with content, but some recent topics have been about books they're reading, about their day, and things to tell their older brother or penpal.)
- Screen time allowed after completely ready for bed, at the parent's discretion
This has worked so well for us! Having a daily plan for our days at home makes every day so much easier. I work from home and need my kids to know what is expected of them without me staying on top of them. I've found that giving them written-out, clear expectations has allowed them to become quite independent, which is pretty awesome and a total win-win for both them and me. Not only do chores get done with little argument, but they've also been learning how to cook and read recipes and they spend their days finding fun ways to entertain themselves -- rather than just lounging around on their electronics.
Today I watched my 10-year-old make homemade pudding and wash the dishes, while her brother built a village with blocks. No electronics, no arguments, and I got work done, all because of clearly established expectations! I hope it works for you too!
